What to do after you have fucked a girl for the first time

” I must have been a real conquest, 3 days and not so much as a message….nice6:53 AM”

The above is a text message I got years ago from a hot European blonde that I fucked from a club.

I am going to start by saying I am probably THE WORST offender when it comes to handling girls after I have fucked them (no proud of it and trying to work on it).

A lot of guys mess up with retention problems and or give girls mix messages on the role you want to play in the relationship.

So I am going to start by saying that the first thing you need to do is always come across as the lover/sexual/alpha type dude.

Do not compromise your role by giving the women mix messages.

I am a lover, I look like a lover, I act like lover, I never sell “boyfriend/relationship” to woman. Now that does not mean, I am not vulnerable, caring, sweet etc… But, I do my best not to give the wrong impression of my role.

Now I am going to tell you a little secrets of 1st time sex. Usually in my experience first time sex is either bad, not that good and/or horrible, this does not mean at all the other times you have sex will be the same. In my personal experience the more you have sex with the same girl the better it gets.

Now, no matter how hot the girl is or how well you connect, possible reasons why first time sex being kind of bad, are:

1.- You are exhausted after club game specially if sex is after 2 am.

2.- wrong condom

3.- you are in your head and she is in her head.

4.- the sexual location is not that conductive to sex.(car, bathroom, park, beach)

5.- Environment (for example I have tons of performance problems when there are animals around, pictures of the dad, Jesus,etc…)

6.- Awkwardness (2 strangers naked for the first time)

7.- You had sex or jerked off before, and your dick decided not to get or stay hard (I am going to take a break, some dicks like mine, have a sense of humor and like to play tricks on me)

8.- You bust a  nut too fast.

9.- you are nervous.

10.- She is not your type naked or too hot naked (point number 8)

I can list 200 hundred other reasons but the main point out of all of them is that is something new and you 2 do not know what each other likes, of course with time it should get better and better. With my 3 year ex, the fist time I had sex with her, it was horrible, but with time she was  one of the better girls I ever fucked, get me.

So back to the point, I am going to give you suggestions on how to handle women based on YOUR goals, as I said is usual that first time sex is not that great:

scenario 1: You fucked a girl, but you do not like her, you do not like her personality, you did not like the sex. In this case fuck her, bust a nut or not and get the fuck out.

What to do:

After sex say, shit I got a go floss my cat or ________(fill in the blank excuse) and/or just leave, do not text her do not reply to her text if she texts, you do not exist.

Scenario 2: You fucked a girl, you like her and her personality, sex was meh, but you want to remain friends and unsure if you want to fuck her again or maybe you want to keep her as friends with benefits aka fuck buddy. Better yet, to make it less confusing any girl that is not scenario number 1.

What to do:

After sex find an excuse to leave. As you are leaving TEXT HER RIGHT AWAY, “thank you I had a good time” with a smiley face.  Unfortunately, my problem is that I tend to lose interest after sex, specially if sex was not that good.  So I procrastinate the texting and then the delay makes things worst, to the point, were 99% of the girls I fucked initiate the texting since I forget about it. But, this statistics are horrible by me, not proud of it, so that is why I suggest texting them right away as soon as you walk out of the door.(I myself wrote this post to adopt this habit from now on).

Scenario 3:

The girl has amazing personality, looks,  you know in your head that she may be a good “prospect” to make a girlfriend (no I am not talking about neediness or obsession and you still have to DATE MULTIPLE WOMEN NO MATTER WHAT). But,you just  get a feeling she may be a good girlfriend potential, those 1 out of a million fucks, were you and the girl connected so so good.

What to do:

Sleep over, fuck her again in the morning and if possible take her out for breakfast, the more time you spend together post sex the more attached she is going to get.

The main key if you do not want to see yourself as a boyfriend potential is not to do traditional dating, fuck them fast, AND DO NOT SLEEP OVER OR LET HER SLEEP OVER. Out!