Most break up posts, blogs, videos are mainly accurate but from a normal person view, not from a secret society (specially seducer/player) perspective. What is the difference you may ask? A secret society member is able to access sexual partners fairly quick and usually do not get onitis (obsession with one girl or neediness) in the same way a regular person who does not have as much access to sex as we do.
The reason for this video is due to a close seducer friend and one of the top legendary guys in the community is going through a rough break up situation (please don’t ask or guess names out of respect), just like I did and Tyler did couple of years back (we both experience the break up towards the same point in time). So secret society members which include women, gays and seducers(no beginners) can get laid or have access to vagina fairly quick so such community advice such as go out and fuck 10 other girls, will not work. The reason such advice won’t work is cause a seducer is not a normal guy who has scarcity when it comes to sex (the average normal guy has only has 7 partners in a lifetime, a seducer can have 7 partners in a week), women/gays (can have 7 partners in a day) despite of how they look.
So my point is getting laid is not the problem reproducing the emotions/pair bonding you develop with the girl is the tough part, this is specially more difficult cause we pick girls when it comes to girlfriend/main girls from an abundance of women, so is hard for us to just give our hearts to anybody.
There are 2 main reasons why women leave a seducer:
1.- The lack of progression in the relationship.- Most seducers will not really commit fully, in other words they will not go through traditional relationship progress of courtship, engagement, marriage. But, most seducers engage in open relationships, cheating relationships and none traditional relationships. This eventually will start affecting women social value. Picture yourself with a traditional American girl facing on holidays questions from friends and family “why you have not gotten married?” “why you do not have kids? like my ex had to face year after year for almost 10 years. This is very embarrassing, stressful and hard for women specially as they get older. I met my ex when she was 22 almost 23 as she was getting older and saw no progression she started to look for options and to auto reject.
2.- You are not attractive enough:
A.- This could be financially (lost of job, decrease in income, business failure and she is convinced that the situation has not hope in the future). Women are hard wired to search security to take care of the offspring.
B.- This could be Physical.- Your looks/style have deteriorated and she not longer see as you as a sexual guy with options as once she saw you but more like brother/roommate/friend. Disclaimer.-Even if looks don’t deteriorate sometimes sell stalls and get boring for everybody.
c- This could be sexually.- You do not please her sexually or her sexual needs have change. I gave the example of how my main ex husband came to fast.
d.- Could be boredom.- She is not emotionally stimulated and bored of you and the relationship.
^ keep in mind it could be a combination of all of the above or a little bit of all of the above. Also keep in mind that women are hard wired to take you off the market indirectly with actions we call that in the community betatization and the more you comply during the relationship with the women demands/agenda the more in turn she will lose attraction.
Physically and social betatization, even players will then become normalized and betazized by women as a strategy to take you off the market which in turn kills attraction.
Now you may say to yourself I will always be a pimp player (I always have and will always be), but when she start checking out, you may as a hail marry desperation, start acting like a normal guy in order to keep her and in turn she will notice this, decreasing attraction. (This happened to me)
Keep in mind women never leave the game, no matter if is Pastor Joel Osteen wife for example, they will always have orbiters, friends, co workers etc… hitting on them subtly does not have to be direct. When they start checking out of the relationship they will take a second look at them and engage them.
Before a break up there is always someone in the background she is planning to hook up with or in case of players (players get cheated more than normal guys, cause we have fucked around a lot), she will have sexual relations, specially white western women.
Some signs she is about to check out or checking out:
– A lot more focus on her fitness and appearance
– A lot more time apart. (if you spent 7 days with her now maybe 2 days)
– A lot more acting hardened (her femininity is gone is like you are dating a dude, no homo)
– A lot of more nitpicking and drama.
– A lot of things that never bother her about you now bothers them
– Disrespect
– She will Talk shit about you and make you into an enemy, into a horrible person to friends and family behind your back. (The reason for this is that she needs social reinforcement to get rid of you specially after she has introduce you to friends, family, social media etc…
Things that you will do during the break up:
– You will in most cases act more playerish and tend to do more seduction techniques such as nexting, freeze outs and the likes. These things would usually work but at this point, they will not work and in fact backfired, because she has checked out already.
– Once you see the above that used to work: (specially the frame of “if you do not like it i am out” “if you lose me i will get other girls” is not longer working, a lot of us will revert to act like a normal guy and act like nice guys. This will in turn, turn her off even more cause she knows that is not the real you and you are doing this to salvage the already done relationship.
– You will get rid of all your women and stop being a seducer as a hail marry. Again is too late and this will only piss her off and turn her off more.
Things that will happen post break up:
– You will not think right. Your head space will not be right.
– You will cry, get very vulnerable and emotional.
– You will not feel like being with other women and your game will got to shit.
– You will want nothing to do with players and seducers instead you want to be more like a normal fag.
– You will get a bit of attraction in fairness cause your game is still there and the girls love guys coming out of relationships for some reason.(Usually they love guys 6 months out vs being used as a rebound)
– The thing is every new girl you meet, you will comparte to your old main and she will always come out on top.
– Sex in some cases will be horrible cause you are just going through the motions with the new girls and you will feel like shit and miss her more post busting a nut.
– You will check her social media every once in a while (she knows this and she will fuck with you, posting pictures of her being sexy, getting attention and likes from other guys and the likes)
– You will compare yourself to the other guy you do not know and try to compete with that other guy you do not know. (if the guy is fit, you will try to be as fit or fitter than him, if the guy has a car, you may try to get better car, if the dude has a house you will try to get a bigger house etc…)
– You will have a fantasy of her realizing her mistake, missing you and coming back.
– Everything that could go wrong in your life will go wrong all at the same time. Ex. you may lose a friend, your dog may die, your family member may die, you could lose your job, you could get sued, you car will break down. Anything and everything that could go wrong will go wrong.
– She will date a guy totally opposite to you. If you are rich she will go for a normal to poor guy. If you are poor for a well off guy. If you are player, for a nice guy. If you are nice guy for a player, If you are church guy for a sexual deviant guy and vice versa etc….
– You will tell everybody with 2 ears about your break up and keep repeating yourself
– You will become her defense attorney and every time, every one point out the flaws and what she did wrong you will defend her and backward rationalize.
– You will want to express your feelings and send her closure block of text to her and other people which she will use to tool you or use as leverage to increase her value with the new guy/orbiter etc..
-You will block her, unblock her etc…
What to do if you are seducer:
– Do not make ANY ALTERING LIFE DECISION POST BREAK UP. (Your mind is fucked up). Do not get jobs, do not move, do not sign any contracts, do not buy a house or car. Do not do any life decision at least 3 to 6 months post break up
– Do not go into a fuck rampage. I would advise to go monk mode (no sex for a month). The reason is sex will make you feel like shit, and is not fair to those new women you will dump you ex emotion on to them. Usually this girl will get sick of you talking about your ex, but will be supportive and the attraction will increase the “I wish he could give me all that love he gave to her” factor.
– When it comes to pick up, you will hate going out to clubs, bars and the likes and picking up girls, and you will nitpick on every girl since they do not live up to your ex standard.
– You may go for a girl that looked and reminded you of your ex.
– Your game will go to shit, you are vulnerable, not charismatic, not too alpha.
– Your testosterone may drop a lot and your sex drive due to this traumatic event.
– Under any circumstances do not get back with her. She is not even the same girl and it will not be the same relationship. TRUST ME, even if you get back you will end up breaking up. The only time to get back is if there is a misunderstanding on the break up (and how often this happens). DO NOT GET BACK.
– Under any circumstance talk to her or see her for at least have of the time of what the relationship lasted. So for example if you were with her 2 years, no contact for a year. Better if never.
– Do not go into mgtow, red pill and all the crap women hating/nitpicking women movements. (But if you have critical thinking and are advance a lot of the content can be helpful)
– Talk to like minded seducers that have gone or understand what you are going through, vs. Young upcoming seducers with limited relationship/life experience. Do not be afraid to be vulnerable and look afc. (We all do after a break up)
– Time to reevaluate your life, go to the gym, change your style, act like a beginner in game and get your game back. (Most of us have it, will need to take the rust off)
– Depress, negative and even suicidal thoughts happen to some people.
What if you broke up with a girl:
– They will go through extreme pain
– They will try to get prego in some cases.
– They will go psycho in some cases.
– They will seek therapy in some cases.
– They will try to cheat on the partner with you in some cases.
^ Do not ever get back with girls unless they were friends with benefits that are coming back with minimal emotional investment from their part. (If they were in love is a no no, unless they fell out of love and they do not have the capability of falling again since they know better.)
Recommended sources:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-your-girlfriend-back
https://www.girlschase.com/content/knowing-when-break-girl
A bit blue pill in me but is ok: http://www.theskillsmethod.com/break-dynamics/
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