Going from Old-Fashion Average Normal Guy to a State of the Art Modern “Seducer” (tales from online game)

Going from Old-Fashion Average Normal Guy to a State of the Art Modern “Seducer”

After finally breaking out of 16 years of marriage, I came to the conclusion that it was time for me to give love/relationships a second chance to see what it is out there. One night as I was sitting in my bedroom re-thinking about my life and what I want my future to hold. I decided to give online dating a chance. I had tried POF in the past (back in 2009) but from experience there were a lot of creepers and crazy guys on that site. They were either very lame and simply had no female tactic whatsoever or they simply came out too bluntly and made it clear they were only in it for the sex only. I really didn’t want to risk another chance and waste my time with that site so I google dating sites and came across OKCupid.

I have only been in the site for about 2 months. There have been many hits, many matches and many messages, but like any other site you have a mixture of good and bad apples. In the 2 months that I have been on there I have talked to multiple guys (I would say an average of at least 15-20), but the conversation does not get past a “Hey! How is your day going sexy”? Or the simple “Oh, I want to meet you” but never really get the balls hard
enough to actually do it.

After a couple of weeks passed, I was actually finally able to come across guys that took the step to finally meet in person. I met a total of 6 guys. 2 out of the 6 guys were an “OMG!! WTF was I thinking! Get me out of here” feeling. One was pretty decent and I thought we would had gotten along very well, but I took too long in getting intimate with him and he eventually drifted away. As I was trying to analyze what was I doing wrong, I decidedto take a different approach and stated that I will forget about my rules and break the “no sex so quickly rule”. The last 3 guys I met I ended up having sex with them, but in a way, it bit me in the ass. After sleeping with my 4th meet and greet OKCupid match, I noticed that his attitude and texting changed after I had opened my legs. He became distant and cold. Every morning (and this was prior to us sleeping together) I would receive a text in the morning wishing me a good day. And the messages throughout the day of how my day was going. It was in our 3rd date that he took me back to his place after we had dinner and I ended up sleeping with him. Don’t get me wrong the sex was not too bad. It was not the best of the best, but it was not the worse of the worse either, but what I did not like was the fact that his attitude changed afterwards. I felt horrible, used and slutty. I felt like kicking myself in the ass for being stupid. I let a few days pass by, but still decided to continue to see my matches that appeared in my profile.

It was with this 5th meet and greet that my life took a curveball turn, and it is actually he whom I owe this discusion about. He is my source of inspiration and the reason why I’m writing it. I will call him my “most stand out match worth taking a risk for guy”. I say this because he is not my typical “average man”. He is the total opposite of what I want in a relationship. I have been only in monogamous/serious relationships and with men that are very traditional in some shape or form (or so they made me believe that until some certain point). But what makes this man so different and stand out is that he is not afraid to say things the way it is. He is a man that works for what he wants and has shown to be someone that reached every goal he sets himself to accomplish. This guy is a guy that actually listens to the woman and understands how we feel. He is what he calls himself a “seducer”. The only downfall about him (and in his opinion it is a good thing) is that he believes in open relationships. He does not get exclusive with any girl. He doesn’t do the traditional agendas of dates. But though his beliefs go against mine, it is something that makes him very attractive in my eyes.

When we first met, it was actually out of a spontaneous/last minute thing. I had made plans with one of my friends to go out bowling, but I was texting back and forth with him throughout the afternoon. He was very sweet and was constantly standing out. He even text me to have fun with my friends that night. That was something that I considered very sweet on his behalf. While I was on 95, I got the call of a last minute cancelation and my plans for the night were bombed. I text him of my unfortunate situation and told him that I didnt want to go home. The night was still pretty young and out of a spontaneous approach I suggested we should meet. I asked if he was available and the meeting became effective.

When I arrived at the meeting location I got a little freaked out, I admit it. Here I was in the middle of the night waiting for a guy that I never met and only seen a few pictures. What made my night a little strange feeling was while I was waiting, I noticed that the meeting point was a Starbucks address that had closed down. The first thing that came to my mind was “OMG please dont let this be one of those stuations where the guy is a total freak and weirdo. He kept texting me while he was making his way through the meeting point so this made me feel a little more at ease, but then some random guy comes out to me and says “You look lost. Are you okay?” I got a little freaked out because this man seemed he had a few drinks already in his system that was working its way up. I answered him yes and that I am not lost. He got the clue and left. After a few minutes (not even sure how many TBH since I was nervous and paranoid a little by that strange man), he returns with a can of beer and walks up to me out of the blue offering me to have a drink with him.

Once again feeling all uncomfortable and creeped out I answered him with “No thank you, Im ok”. He asked if I was sober. I said yes and told him that I was actually waiting to meet someone. I believe he got the hint already that I was unease and feeling uncomfortable because he busted out saying that its a good thing,to stay sober and wished me a goodnight. As soon as the strange man left I text my handsome meet asking him where he was at. I mentioned what just happened and he responded he knew about it and saw it and will actually be there in a few.

I wondered how would he had known since he was not there, and then the doubt of “was he the creepy guy” submerged my brain. I really thought he was the creepy guy and had just given me a picture of some other person and he was just imposing as being that hot guy I was under the impression I was meeting. To my luck, that was not the case thank God because a few minutes later I see my sweet handsome meet walk down the sidewalk and my heart was at ease because his face was very familiar.

I was a little nervous when I saw him and I told him that for a moment I thought he was the creepy guy that offered the beer and left. But was happy when I saw his familiar face. The first impression of him was very positive. I checked him out and I really liked what I saw. We proceeded to the “meet and greet”. He took me to Downtown Lake Worth and sort of gave me the tour since I was not familiar with it. We walked around, talked and laughed. I was really liking his personality. On that first meet we went to different areas of Lake Worth. Felt like I was bouncing from place to place. Each area getting very cozy. When we arrived the spot where you were able to sit and just chat he started to demonstrate his romantic side. He caressed me and made me want to kiss him but he played very cool about it. Even though I wanted to kiss him right away he was very smooth with his move and didnt do it. He kept moving me around and saying jokes and really having a good time. That night he gave me the first kiss at a dowtown (but not so much park) setting and it felt very magical.

I felt like little sparks were being lit in my stomach. I was really enjoying this guys company and the more I was with him the more I wanted to get to know him better. The night ended with a view of the bay where there were boats. He was definitely very romantic. I was so into him that the only reason I was not intimate that night was because I was on my period. But his way of kissing me had me so turned on that I offered to give him a BJ. Now this is the part that WOW’d me. When I offered he was the first guy that actually had the balls to decline and tell me no because what pleasure will I get out of it since I had my period and we couldnt get intimate. I have
never in my life have I had a guy burst out with something like that. That made him very unique and different.

As the days continue to pass and we continue to communicate at one point he brings out the suggestion and the “teacher” out of him that I should be dating multiple guys. That nowadays the dating world has changed and I need to basically not be lazy and do the work it takes. Deep down inside me I was very hesitant because that is not my style. I prefer to concentrate on one guy at a time as Im getting to know them, especially if there is a connection and strong chemistry. But to just give it try I agreed and I decided to proceed with my 6th meet. But that 6th meet was the breaking point. I went out with this guy and during the whole date I had my sweet “seducer” on my mind everytime. Everywhere I went I was thinking about him, and the fact that I was taken to the same spots that I had gone out with him was really not a big help. We bouced from club to club, talked, laughed and though I was constantly being reminded of my other meet I had a good time and I allowed to get intimate with my 6th meet.

But it was due to that experience that made me say NO! I cant do this. I cant be meeting and sleeping with multiple guys. Makes me feel very slutty and it just not me. I am type of girl that I dont fuck, I make love. I dont separate sex from my emotions. The more I care for the guy and the more I fall for him the stronger and deeper my feelings get for that person because I am already at a point where I am making love. I use my body as the tool to demonstrate the maximum and highest level of love that I am capable of giving. The sex with this 6th guy was very rough. No connection at all. He was all about satisfying his own sexual need vs connecting with me and
making sure it was a mutal satisfaction.

When I explained this to my sweet and handsome seducer I told him that I couldnt do it and refuse to do it. I told him that I was going to concentrate on just him. I am focusing on getting to know one person at a time and connecting with one person at a time and sleeping with that one person only. Now this is where my dilema comes in because I know how this guy is. I went from a traditional/catholic monogamous man that lasted 16 years to a guy that does not get exclusive and prefers to have open relationships. Why do I put up with it I ask myself. Well the answer is simple. Because for the past month I have been (by choice on my behalf) exclusive to this guy emotionally and sexually and the feeling gets stronger and stronger. Our intimacy has gotten to a point where I fel that I am in a very unexplainable connecion with him. Last time I felt a connection that strong was actually with my ex-husband. They are not the same in any shape or form. Not physically, mentally, socialy or even sexually. But the one thing that they do share is that spark that once I felt and turned into a strong love.